Him continuing to do things after I said they hurt me was a repeating trend however. These are examples of verbal and emotional abuse:ĭon't ask me what the logic is behind doing shitty things to someone then calling them a victim when they point out the shitty things. Henry was also verbally and emotionally abusive. I want it stated that I've never said a single bad thing about any girl I've met via Henry and I've liked many of them! I don't need to give evidence for these claims because he knows they are true and he will look like an idiot attempting to discredit me. According to mutual friends he also bad mouthed me to her and told her not to post anything on social media about being with him. He invited me over *days* after she had left his flat. I embarrassingly found out via mutual friends months later. Last year he was seeing another Twitch streamer in secret the same time we were trying to see if we'd get back together. He cheated on his last partner, with me - and I had to force him to tell her when it was made clear their relationship was actually serious because he wanted me to stay silent. He is also a self admitted(! rare, I know) narcissist. He lies when it suits him, which has increased over the years and not just to me. He knowingly put my sexual health at risk on more than one occasion. Henry sleeps with a lot of women without protection and was not honest about many of the women he slept with. It was nice to be taken seriously and it helped me deal with a lot of these emotions. The NHS therapist urged me to report it, the BetterHelp therapist asked me if I felt I had been assaulted. I sought a therapist, via BetterHelp and then recieved help via the NHS. I didn't process any of this properly until March-April. The last time I saw him, I also sat in the landing crying. We did not have sex again and when he tried to initiate it and broke clear boundaries I had established, I nearly burst into tears. We met three times after in January/February. You can see he doesn't disagree with me or call me a liar, he apologises.įor those that might wonder why I didn't speak out right away, I repressed it under the thought process that I was sure he cared about me. I spoke about this to him the day after on Discord and that is the screencap you see on twitter. A 31 year old man should know these basic things about consent. Being drunk is literally an /additional reason/ why he should not have done what he did but no, I feel faint when I experience pain/blood which is why I laid on the floor (hence the reference to it not being my period). He also claimed that I lay down on the floor because I was drunk. This is actually false and is completely irrelevant because consent can be revoked. Recently he made the claim to me that I sent messages before I arrived saying that I wanted sex. What he did was wrong and an incredibly selfish decision that has had a pretty profound psychological impact on me. This is against the law in a lot of countries for good reason. I ALSO SPECIFICALLY DID NOT CONSENT ANYWAY. He made a comment about me being silly lying on the floor. I do this whenever I feel faint although the additional reason of not wanting to be touched was true. There was blood and because I am pathetic with blood, I returned to the bedroom and laid on the floor, not the bed. The pain shocked me, my body was clearly not ready for sex, I expressed as much and I ran to the bathroom. I don't become aware of my surroundings until he is having sex with me and it is INCREDIBLY PAINFUL. My focus is honestly on trying to feel okay because the room is spinning and I feel awful. I couldn't even tell you how long this lasted. After a short period he gets frustrated and ignores this. I tell him I am not interested in having sex because I am too high. This affect takes a few hours to wear off on average. I get spinning vertigo when I am too high and I feel anxious, disconnected and otherwise feel awful. He knows because he is aware of how much I can do from previous experiences. Henry right away points out I have done too much at once. I'll be honest, I am not great with bongs, I very rarely smoke weed at all and have not always been smart at inhaling the right amount. On New years eve this year after spending the first part with friends I went to go see Henry. I am writing this because women, especially vulnerable women, deserve the right to avoid dating and associating with someone who has a very recent past of being abusive.
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